When you encounter a negative feeling, it is easy to respond with more negativity. You do not want to feel bad, hence you resist feeling bad. The result is that you feel even more bad, and if you still resist it, you are starting a downward spiral. You want to keep your frequency up there in a vibratory state that makes you feel powerful and loved, ecstatic and creative.
What makes for a great, expansive feeling, and what makes for a bad, contractive feeling?
A belief system that is in alignment with what your higher self is true will feel great and expansive, while a belief that is not in alignment with that truth will feel contractive. This is your very own guidance system to let you know if you are out of alignment with your eternal, true purpose.
This is a way of defining good and bad feelings (they are ultimately two sides of the same coin) that will have you regain control and step out of any victim mentality you may have. Circumstances does not make you feel good or bad, only your reaction to them ever can.
Every situation, thought or circumstance is inherently neutral. It is your point of view when reacting to the situation that generates either a feeling of ecstatic expansion or contraction.
There is always something to learn when you feel bad. It is an opportunity to grow, to expand, to accelerate into new points of view – opening up more of yourself and your energy to be used for expansive activities rather than victimizing yourself. (Click here to learn to recognize in what ways your victim thinking may be benefiting you in the short-term and how to overcome it.)
It can be hard to see that you are always in control of your state of being, and that no-one else or whatever they may do to you, can take away from you your power or choice to feel amazing. Unless you let them, by choice. Does it feel good to give away your power, and let it be up to the actions of others whether or not you can feel great? From an empowerment perspective (no more victim-state), no. It feels good to think that you are in control of your state of being, that you have free will, because it is true.
1. Dive as Deep as You Can into Your Self-Realization
The first method to keep your frequency high is the most essential one. When all else fails, turn to this one. It is simply a way to deepen your self-realization by paying attention to the fact that you exist. In fact, if you constantly remind yourself that you exist, that you are alive, that you are here, now, conscious, you will be able to go deeper and further into your existence, as Awareness. (It is also possible to go even deeper, beyond experience and Awareness and back into the Absolute, or Infinity)
By remembering that you exist, that you are here and now, conscious of yourself, you will be able to relax all thought activity and take your focus back to your roots, giving yourself a reboot. (More on the 5 second reboot here.)
2. Imagine Whatever Makes You Feel Best
Your imagination is a very powerful tool to raise your frequency. Instead of imagining worst case-scenarios or use it for worrying about this and that, why not try to create blissful and ecstatic states of being? You can imagine yourself, as a human being, together with other human beings, in certain situations, doing specific things, or you can keep it more undefined and abstract. As long as you find the feeling of alignment and joy that you are looking for, it is of less importance exactly what you are imagining.
By using your imagination in this way you are creating states of being in the non-physical, which is just as real as the physical. You instantly feel a psychological relief and perhaps even feel good in your physical body. Instant manifestation. You manifest all of your external reality from your internal state of being. The more you accept this as a fact, and take responsibility for your reality, the more empowered you become. And the more you take control of your imagination and power as a creator to experience any state of being you choose, the easier and more effortless it becomes.
Keep your state of being joyful, keep your frequency high, and know that you are in absolute control of your vibrational state.
A scientific way of explaining and understanding this is found here.
Several different ways of saying this (that resonate with you), will allow you to see it from several points of view and make it easier to integrate into your life.
3. Be Grateful for Feeling Bad
Whenever you notice that you are in a negative state of being, be joyful. You see that you feel bad. Great! Now, at least, you can do something about it.
Don’ resist it. Observe it, accept it and be grateful that you see it and don’t have to keep holding on to it.
Remember that the negative state of being is a signal from a higher self (or whatever you wish to call the version of you who sees from an all-seeing perspective) that you have a belief that is out of alignment with what it knows to be true. Just redefining feeling bad as this signal can be enough to raise your frequency right back up. You are loved and watched out for! By this higher self, God, the universe etc. What you call it is not the point here. When you feel bad, there is something for you to learn. The Universe is showing you that there is a lesson to be learned in order for you to keep expanding, so be grateful.
4. Use Reminders
Use reminders, as many as you can, to help you get back into a high frequency. Do things that trigger you to be in a peaceful state of being. Watch a video, read a blog article, read a book, hang out with friends, go shopping. Only you know what can serve as a reminder for you to tune into higher frequencies.
Fill your life with whatever makes you feel amazingly connected to who you really are.
Be honest to what truly serves and excites you, and you will see more and more blissful states of being manifest in your life.
Wrapping it up
The information here may seem radical to some people. The terms may be unfamiliar and the content thought provoking. Let it sink in, use other resources, integrate what you learn. Take only what feels right on some level. Let go of the rest.
Wrapping it up, serving it, eating it – Mmm, Yummy! – digesting it and utilizing all the useful bits and pieces… And defecating the waste.
Now you hopefully have some new inspiration and methods you can experiment with to create great states of being. You can dive into self-realization to snap out of a downward spiral and into deep understandings of your true nature; you can use your imagination to create increasingly more blissful states of being; you can redefine feeling bad as a signal for you to learn and feel great through expansion; you can fill your life with reminders that keep you vibrant with joy; or you can do all of the above.